Trust isn’t built through flashy presentations or perfectly crafted pitches. It’s built in the quiet moments when your words resonate so deeply that your client feels, “This person truly understands me.”

But here’s the challenge.

Most advisors rely on the same overused phrases, trying to sound polished or impressive.

And while those words might seem professional, they often create distance instead of connection.

So, what are the words that actually build trust?

They’re not about you.

They’re about your client.

For example, instead of saying, “Let me show you what I can do for you,” try this:

“Would it be helpful if we explored what’s been keeping you up at night financially?”

This subtle shift changes everything.

It moves the focus away from what you’re offering and places it squarely on their concerns.

Another powerful phrase is:

“Can you help me understand what’s been the most frustrating part of this for you?”

These words do something most advisors overlook -- they invite your client to share their truth.

And when they do, don’t rush to respond.

Instead, reflect back what you’ve heard.

For example:

“It sounds like you’ve been carrying this burden alone for a long time. That must feel overwhelming.”

This isn’t just about empathy.

It’s about showing your client that you’re not here to fix them -- you’re here to walk alongside them.

Another key phrase to keep in your toolbox is this:

“What would success look like for you if we worked together?”

This question shifts the conversation from problems to possibilities.

It allows your client to envision a future where their concerns are resolved, and they feel in control again.

But here’s the most important part.

Your words only work if they’re backed by genuine care.

Clients can sense when you’re just going through the motions.

They can feel when your questions are scripted or insincere.

So, before you speak, check your intention.

Are you asking because you truly want to understand?

Or are you asking because you think it’s what you’re supposed to do?

When your intention is pure, your words will naturally build trust.

Because trust isn’t about saying the perfect thing.

It’s about creating a moment where your client feels safe enough to open up.

So, the next time you’re in a conversation, remember this.

The words that build trust aren’t about you proving your value.

They’re about helping your client feel heard, understood, and supported.

And when you master that, trust will follow effortlessly.

Ari Galper is the world’s number one authority on trust-based selling and is the most sought-after high-net worth/lead generation expert for financial advisors. His newest book, “Trust In A Split Second” has become an instant best-seller among financial advisors worldwide – you can get a Free copy of Ari’s book here and, when you click the “YES” button in the order form, you’ll also receive a complimentary “plug up the holes” lead generation consultation. Ari has been featured in CEO Magazine, Forbes, INC Magazine and the Financial Review. He is considered a contrarian in the financial services industry and in his book, everything you learned about selling will be turned upside down. No more chasing, no pressure, no closing.